Girl, just be body positive! Like, love your body no matter what! That’s it! It’s that easy! Just always love yourself unconditionally!
Not only is that shit highly sexist, but it’s also completely unattainable. No one, I don’t care who they are, is 100% okay with themselves all the time. Body acceptance doesn’t come easily to many of us. We’re all conditioned from an early age that only one perfect, completely unattainable body type is the right one to have.
Rewiring that shit doesn’t happen overnight.
Over time and with enough practice, you can learn how to at least accept your body for what it is. Most of the time, anyway.
Here’s how I’m working on that, myself.
1. Get Naked
The more time we spend sitting in our naked bodies, the more we feel at home in them. Look at your body naked as often as you can. Run your hands over all your rolls and curves, grab your belly fat, dance around your room naked.
I’m serious. When I started to spend more time in my personal space without clothes on, I started to feel better about my body. I was able to look at it as just a body.
Usually after a shower, I’ll lock my door and sit around in my towel to dry off. Then, if I’m feeling saucy, I’ll lay around reading a book butt-naked. It’s freeing. Give it a shot.
2. Follow Folks Who Look Like You
The more time we spend looking at folks who have different body types, the easier it is for our minds to accept that that body type is beautiful. And when the only people we follow on social media have straight-sized bodies, or worse, when those people only post the most flattering pictures possible, we start to see all the ways that we aren’t that.
3. Forgive Yourself
Next up, you have to let go of the resentment you hold for yourself. No, you are not perfect. No, you are not always going to love yourself. No, you’re not any less of a body size activist because of it.
When you’re told you have to love your body no matter what, you’re being asked to regulate your emotions, not your body. Stop feeling critical about your relationship with your body. Take that pressure off.
4. Fuck the Health Trolls
The last thing that really helped me figure out how to heal my relationship with my body was when I stopped giving in to the health concern trolling that I’d get. I’d always follow up my “I know I’m fat” with “but my blood pressure is perfect!” or “but I’m active!”
Yeah, health is great. But you are not any more or less entitled to basic human decency because you are or are not healthy.
Let me repeat that for the people in the back: you are no less entitled to basic human decency because you aren’t healthy. Your health is not an indicator of your worth. YOUR HEALTH IS NOT AN INDICATOR OF YOUR WORTH.
When I was sick in the hospital after treatment for stage 3b colorectal cancer, no one said shit under my pictures like “yeah she’s strong but should she be promoting her cancerous lifestyle???” because it’s never been about health.
I can promise you, those people saying “yeah she’s cute but she’s promoting obesity and that’s just unhealthy!!” don’t care about you or your health. They’re concern trolling. Ignore them and move on.
The Path to Body Acceptance
Honestly, the road to body acceptance hasn’t been an easy one. I still have days where I feel uncomfortable in my own skin. But I know that our bodies are literally designed to change size and shape as we get older. We are not supposed to have the same waistline from birth to death.
It’s okay to change. It’s okay to stay the same.
Your body, your body right now, is worthy. You are worthy.