The one thing I hear more than anything else when my clients email me is that, even though they’re so excited for a boudoir session, they want to wait until they lose weight.
“But I’m not in good shape!” they tell me. “Once I’ve hit my goal weight, I’m going to give you a call.”
And, like, I get it. I really do. I have days, weeks, months where I don’t feel comfortable in my own skin. I read the comments section of YouTube too, and I’ve seen far too many fat-positive creators getting torn down by neckbearded dudebros to think that body neutrality is always achievable. It’s so easy to listen to what others say about our bodies.
But I’m here today to tell you that your body, exactly as it is right now, is worthy of being photographed. It’s a work of art. All your wrinkly bits, weird scars, cellulite, and stretch marks make up the roadmap of your life story. It’s a beautiful story.
So here’s why you should book that boudoir shoot anyway.
1. You’re Biased Against Your Body
I’m not going to lie, you’re… kind of not the expert on how your body looks. You never see it the way other people do. When you’re looking in the mirror, you’re seeing yourself straight on and you already know exactly where you’re insecure, so you’re attention is going to go straight to that area.
You never see yourself when you’re reading a book or playing with your hair. You don’t know what you look like when you’re focused on something you’re passionate about. You haven’t ever watched yourself when your eyes are closed and you’re really, really feeling yourself.
The whole point of a boudoir shoot is to show you those things from the perspective of someone who cares deeply for you.
2. Everyone’s Got a “Thing”
For me to take pictures from that perspective, I have to get to know you. Before every boudoir session, I send out a questionnaire to find out some important information. One of those questions involves areas of the body that my clients feel confident about and areas that they’re not so confident about.
I have never, ever had a client tell me that they love their tummy. Actually, most people say they want to hide it. Even women who are straight-sized tell me that they want to hide their tums.
Let me tell you, first of all, that that’s a crying shame. I love soft bellies. I love my stomach so much, it’s so soft and large and perfect to rest your head on. It’s got scars from surgeries and stretch marks from babies and I love it. I do. But I had to work hard to get there.
So if you’re looking at your stomach and thinking that you’d rather never take pictures of it exposed, know that you’re not alone.
As a photographer, it’s my job to take pictures that you will fall in love with. And if that means utilizing angles and lighting to flatter parts of your body, that’s what I’m going to do.
3. This is Your Body Right Now, Why Not Memorialize It?
Like it or not, time marches on. Even if you feel like you’re not in your best possible body and you’re working hard to make yourself smaller or fitter or whatever you have to do to feel comfortable, you’re never going to look like this again.
Eventually, in a few years from now, you’re going to look back at yourself. I sincerely hope, from the bottom of my heart, that you get to look back at your body and love it for what it gave you. Even if it’s not perfect, even if you don’t love it right now, I want to give you the chance to look back at it with gratitude.
You’ve survived 100% of the shit you’ve gone through. Your body has too. That’s, like, incredible.
4. Boost Your Confidence
At the end of our time together, even if you don’t love every photo taken, I want you to walk away with a sense of confidence in yourself. I am rooting for you, and not in a sales-pitchy, “authentic branding!!!” kind of way. I mean it.
You, yes you, no matter who you are. I am fuckin’ rooting for you.
If you don’t walk out of our session with your head held high and your confidence boosted, I didn’t do my job.
The Road to Body Neutrality
Body positivity, or body neutrality, isn’t something that just happens one day. It happens because you take small steps every day to accept yourself exactly as you are right now.
That doesn’t have to mean that you jump into a boudoir session, but it does mean that you have to work for it. And being able to see yourself the way others see you truly, without your own ideas about yourself clouding your judgment, could be a step in the right direction.
If you’re interested in learning more about a boudoir session with me, schedule a consult today.